Parents in Training

Before I get to the juicy stuff, I want to stress one major point: all babies are different. I will share our experiences in the first couple of weeks with our boys- It might be completely different, or very similar to someone else’s experience. I don’t really know what the norm is, and I quite frequently make up mom life as I go. Anyway, I’m going to talk about what our days and nights (they run together really) were like when our boys were brand new.


That picture was taken right after we got home from the hospital. Look at those “We can do this! Probably!” faces. I remember having no clue what to do with those tiny little babes. I actually said the words “so, do I just wait on them to cry orrrr…?” I mean, I knew how to keep them alive, but I didn’t know what to actually DO with them. Here’s what it comes to in the first few weeks: feed them, change them, talk to them, and snuggle and love on them lots. Cut yourself (and your partner) some slack on the rest.

Brain Fog

Full disclosure: this section has taken me three days to write. As I’ve worked on this, I’ve realized that my memory of the first couple of weeks with the boys is fuzzy at best. I mean, I remember most things, but there are significant chunks of time I have a hard time recalling. I’ve decided there are two reasons for this. 1. I’m convinced God makes you forget what life is really like with a new baby so you’ll procreate again. 2. As it turns out, sleep plays a pretty important part in functioning as a human being. Sleep was not a frequent visitor for us during this time thus explains my lack of memory.

Training Camp

If any expecting or new mamas asked for my biggest pieces of advice, it would be to accept help when it is offered, and to consider the first couple of weeks (or month) as training. You get a training period when you start a new job; why wouldn’t you get one when you start the biggest job of your life? So many new moms (myself included) put so much pressure on themselves to make sure they do everything right. Uh, you just brought home a tiny human, it’s ok if it takes some adjusting to figure out what works best for your baby and your family. It’s ok if you don’t know what to do sometimes. You will figure it out as you get to know your baby.

During our training camp period, thankfully, we were able to have amazing family stay with us so that we could begin to get a handle on our new roles. The days went pretty smoothly for the most part…until both boys were ready to eat. Then, we went from 0-100 in about half a second. The boys were crying, I was trying to get into my Twin Brest Friend nursing pillow, then trying to get them both in football position, then trying to help them latch, them making sure they both stayed awake and on the boob long enough to eat. Anyone ever wrestled a couple feral cats? Imagine that happening, and it’s pretty similar to what it looks like trying to nurse two hungry babies when you don’t even know how to nurse yet. Sometimes I would cry with them, and sometimes I would fall asleep. But you know what? We made it through…and you will too.

Even though the days were going fairly smoothly, night time was a whole different ball game. I think night time with twins should be an Olympic sport, and everyone who participates gets a gold medal. I remember the first night in the hospital, we had to wake up the boys every three hours to eat. They did not wake up on their own at all the first night. I remember saying the words “Wow they’re good sleepers” out loud. Well, the boys were just exhausted from coming into the world and I later found out that they sleep like every other baby…about an hour at a time. The boys woke up about every hour during the first month. My husband would get the crying baby, change him, give him to me to nurse, get the other one up, change him, and bring him to me to join his brother nursing. Husband would catch a few minutes sleep while I finished nursing. After nursing the boys still needed a couple ounces of formula so we gave the bottles and put them back down. The whole process took about an hour and a half. Sometimes the boys would go right back down, and sometimes they needed snuggles. Once they did go back to sleep, we did the whole process again in about 45mins- 1 hour. There were a few days that my husband and I were so desperate for sleep that we slept in shifts. One would sleep in the room with the babies for four hours, and the other slept on the couch, then we switched. It wasn’t ideal, but you’ll find that you’ll do just about anything to get more than an hour straight of sleep. Every night when we went to bed, we would say, “this could be the night that they sleep 2-3 hours”. That gave us just the hope we needed to stay positive. Eventually those nights came, and even later, they boys slept all the way until morning.

Even though the beginning was incredibly difficult, and I was an unstable ball of emotions, those times really helped develop a higher confidence in myself. It helped me to form a deeper bond with my husband. It helped me to experience a love of my two little babies like I have never known. Each mama’s experience is going to be different, but whatever your experience is, know that you can get through it and you are doing an amazing job.

If you have more questions about our beginning months with twins, feel free to comment on this post or connect with me on Instagram at blwalker_528.

Getting Twins on a Schedule: The Strategies that Worked for Us

Getting twins (or a singleton) on a schedule can seem like a daunting task. There are a zillion books out there that tell you a million different ways to help get your baby on a regular schedule. 1. If you are trying to survive with one or more infants, you don’t have time for reading entire books. 2. If you are trying to read ahead while pregnant, you can’t stay awake long enough to read entire books. So, I thought I would give you the rundown of strategies that worked for us. I will also link the books where I picked up what I consider the most helpful strategies. Really, I took pieces of information from here and there and combined it all because I’m a rebel. It also took a lot of making things up as we go along, but I can say that our boys are now 7 months, and their schedule is like clockwork. So, something must’ve gone right.

In the beginning…

Before leaving the hospital with our boys, my nurse gave us some advice that replayed in my head over and over those first couple of months. She said, for at least the first month, focus on keeping them healthy, the rest will work itself out. I would put a lot of pressure on myself because I thought it was my job as a mom to get the babies on a schedule immediately. I thought I should have them on a routine early, and this willy nilly “schedule” we had meant I wasn’t doing my job. Well, I’m here to tell you, the schedule takes a while. If your babies are fed, and they aren’t screaming out of exhaustion, then you just willy nilly on, girlfriend. One thing we did do right off the bat was feed and wake at the same time. I tandem nursed the boys, and at night, if one woke, we got the other one up also…no.matter.what. For credibility purposes, I’ll let you know that we tried letting them wake individually. We got about an hour of sleep those nights. Total.

Getting Started

One of the best tips I found came from Tracy Hogg’s book Secrets of the Baby Whisperer. (Click for link)

The strategy I found in this book is what really helped us get on an actual schedule. (FYI, our working toward a real schedule didn’t start until the boys were a little over 3 months). Anyway, Hogg suggested making note of your babies’ sleep and hunger cues, times of day they ate, and times of day they slept and for how long. She suggested noting this information for four days. Now, did I take incredibly specific notes? No, ain’t nobody got the time. Over the span of a few days, we did notice the boys were getting sleepy around the same time every day. This was our first step in establishing nap time. Trying to follow the boys natural schedule avoided such pitfalls as a spontaneous fit from being over tired, or scrambling to get everyone on the boob while they’re crying from hunger. If you do have time for some book skimming, or even (gasp) reading an entire book. I would highly suggest Baby Whisperer.

In between eating and sleeping

Who knew that what you do in between sleeping and eating actually plays a role in establishing a successful schedule?? The book On Becoming BabyWise explains an eat-play-sleep schedule with feedings being every 3 hours. Hogg expands on this cycle with E.A.S.Y which is eat-awake-sleep-you. I took these two, meshed them together, and made up my own steps. Does that mean I created my own? Do I smell a book deal?Anyway, we took the natural sleep/eat times we noted for the boys, and incorporated time for play/stimulation in between. We also made sure that before sleeping the boys got lots of cuddles as, I’m convinced, is also one of a baby’s basic needs.

Timeline for Results

As I mentioned earlier, we did not start trying to establish a real schedule until around 3 months. I feel this is really when babies begin sleeping less during the day and you can note more consistent sleep/hunger cues. *I’m not a doctor, and all babies are different. This is just what worked for us.*By three and a half month to four months the boys were down to waking once in the night to eat. At around 4.5 months the boys were sleeping through the night and taking pretty consistent naps during the day. Every once in a while they would take turns napping because, twins life.

The boys are now 7 months and are still sleeping through the night. They also take two naps a day MOST of the time without issue. This isn’t to brag, but to show that it can be done and to maybe give a little hope to those struggling. Here is our boys’ typical schedule:

5:30-6am- wake for 1st feeding

7:30-8- wake for the day

8-9:30- play/cuddles

9:30- Eat

9:45/10-11/11:30-Morning Nap

12/12:30- Eat

12:30-1:30- Play

1:30-2:30/3- Afternoon Nap

3/3:30- Eat

*Sometimes a cat nap around 4:30*

4-6: Play/cuddles/bath

6-6:30- Eat

7:00 Bedtime

I hope sharing what worked for us has been helpful. As always, you are welcome to connect with me on Instagram at blwalker_528

The Baby Gear Hall of Fame

Hey y’all!

I am working on a post about what to expect the first few weeks with a newborn/twins. That post still needs some work because it is turning into a book! So, I decided to save that one to drafts and talk about something that’s a no brainer for me…shopping. Below you’ll find some items that made our lives SO much easier.

For Baby

Newborn Boppy Lounger

My first nominee into the Baby Gear Hall of Fame is the Boppy Newborn Lounger. Can I get this in an adult size? Our boys LOVED these. They are super cozy for baby and even washable. Let’s be real…you’re going to need to wash them. A lot of stuff comes out of babies. I’ve found it online at Target, Buy Buy Baby, and Amazon for around 30 dollars.

Carter’s Zip-Up Sleep and Plays

The boys lived in these. When you have two babies, you need products that make your life easier. How much easier can it get than zipping up your little chubsters in their super cute outfits? The sleep and plays come with zippers or snaps, but honestly, ain’t nobody got time for snaps. Everything is 50% off at Carters right now! Go grab some.

Activity Mat

We started using a mat pretty early on. It gives baby time to explore and figure out how his hands and fingers work, and gives mama/daddy time to drink a cup of coffee. There are TONS of these out there at a variety of price points. Look for something with some dangly toys and music and baby will love it.

Twin Pack N Play

This item is definitely worth the money for twin mamas. We put this in our bedroom for our boys to sleep in. Some say to let your twins sleep in the same bed until they start to roll. Our boys liked to snuggle and play during the day, but at night they slept better separately. This pack n play allows them to be right next to each other without actually being in the same bed. A few brands offer the twin version. We purchased the Graco, but I have heard great things about the Baby Trend version as well. I linked the one that we use below.

For Nursing

Ok, nursing twins is a whole new post. Breastfeeding in general is hard. Sometimes your body adjust and adapts quickly, and sometimes it doesn’t. Sometimes babies take to nursing right away, and sometimes they don’t. Whether you choose to nurse, formula feed, or both, you have to do what is best for your baby and yourself. Ok, I’ll save the rest those thoughts for another time. Here are some products that have been sanity saving in my twin nursing journey:

My Brest Friend Nursing Pillow

I lovingly call this my “dinner table”. This pillow allows you to tandem feed and still have a free hand or two. In the beginning, I contemplated wearing this wherever I went. I truly does become your “brest” friend.

Medela Tender Care

I mean…you’ll need it.

Nursing Bras

You know those random Amazon finds that end up working out really well? This is one of mine. These have been my favorite nursing bras so far. They are adjustable, and offer great support even without underwire.

For Mamas

Here’s a list of things every mama needs to help get through those first few weeks with a new baby or babies:

  • Comfy clothes: Jammies have no time limit now. Welcome to the world of sweatpants.
  • Healthy snacks: Nursing babies brings you to a level of hunger that can be equated to only that of a savage bear.
  • Water: keep a jug within arms reach at all times.
  • Netflix: You are going to be feeding/rocking/snuggling for hours at a time. Find something good to watch.
  • Hair ties: you wear your hair up now…keeps the baby stuff out of it.

I hope this post has been helpful for you expectant mamas out there. As always, you are welcome to connect with me on Instagram at blwalker_528